Same thing with alcohol; some people can have a couple beers, no problem. But alcoholics have an “allergy” to alcohol, so for them, a couple beers turns into a world of hurt. Same thing with food—especially this time of year. Some people can have one Christmas cookie and they’re good. But for food addicts—because of their body’s “allergy” to sugar or processed foods—one Christmas cookie leads to a dozen.
This can be especially true for those in recovery. Those with addiction issues, sometimes have maladjusted ways of thinking which become habits. These thoughts, as mentioned, can tend to be negative, always seeing what is wrong and what we don’t want. Did you ever wake up in the morning and something ‘bad’ happens?
You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
Look for ones on gratitude and listen to them regularly. This will not only help you calm your mind but also find things to be grateful for you may overlook. This concept is much like a vision board.
This decision is only a beginning, though if honestly and humbly made, an effect,sometimes a very great one, will be felt at once. This is a great and fun way to practice gratitude. Get a jar of any kind and when something good happens write it on a strip of paper and put it in the jar.
But what happens for most is when we start to think those judgemental and negative thoughts we think of more things about the person or situation we don’t like. The thoughts can snowball until we’ve worked ourselves into a state spiritual malady of restlessness and discontent. Have you physically or emotionally mistreated a family member? Do your words build up or tear down those around you? As much as it depends on us, we need to live at peace with our families.
But I realized I wanted the emotional payoff more than I physically craved the sugar and lard. When the spiritual malady is overcome, we straighten out mentally and physically. It is important that when we embark upon this quest to alleviate our spiritual malady that we are not too harsh on ourselves. No one is perfect at first when attempting to live a spiritual life, especially when we are coming back from a long spiritual hiatus. What is important though is that we strive to be a little better every single day and never give up on our spiritual journey in recovery.